“I can not go? You are the meanest mom ever! If this is the case, pay close attention to what I am going to say. According to a renowned, respected writer, should you are feeling guilty about incidents such as this, you’ve failed your child. According to the researcher, a successful mother is a Mean Mom. Now, wait a minute, you may object. He did not say that, did he?
The researcher, Abraham Maslow, introduced a concept in 1943 at a newspaper called A Theory of Human Motivation. He identified a hierarchy of human needs that have to be fulfilled, in sequential order, to achieve full adulthood, or what he termed self-actualization. This theory was accepted and adopted around the world and has earned him the name Father of Humanistic Psychology.
The hierarchy is composed of five levels. If we aren’t provided the crucial needs of every level, we can’t progress effectively to another one, thus interrupting the process of getting a fully mature adult.
Safety – security
Self-esteem – value and confidence
Self-actualization – skill to find your passion
Wait, none of these levels says to be a Mean Mom. Really, one does. If you guessed Safety, then you’re correct. What’s security to a child? A child feels secure when sure the adults depended on to keep them out of injury will be there always and unfailingly, regardless of what the conditions.
As a child develops, safety is offered in different ways. For infants it’s being warm, comfortable and attended to. For toddlers, it’s protection as they learn to explore their world.
School-age kids feel secure when assured that house will be a non-changing constant in the face of many new adventures as they separate themselves for the first time. Teen-agers feel secure when they know that whatever personalities they attempt on won’t fool their parents, and that their parents will keep them protected from encounters they believe that they are prepared for, but aren’t.
When the bounds are being analyzed, each and every time without fail. Testing the bounds is their way of checking to determine if the safety net remains in place. Every time you back down, the bounds will be analyzed again. Being a Mean Mom requires staying constant, even if you’re the only parent on the block who’s. Being a Mean Mom provides the safety and security your kids will need to advance to maturity.
How will you know if you’re successful? Your children will inform you. His response was, “Because she feeds me great food.” The friend’s mother overheard him answer, “No way, man. You can not eliminate anything with my mother.”
His response was that the friend did not have a curfew. What came out of his mouth was my affirmation I was a prosperous mean mom. He explained, “I guess his mother does not care about him.” As a mother, that was among the most gorgeous things I’ve ever heard. But it’s not straightforward. Have you got what it takes?
The writer, Maureen LoBue, M.Ed., has united both professional and personal experience to make Mean Mother’s Club: The Mother’s Rule Book. The purpose is to offer a common sense, ready to use reference for busy mothers who need to learn the way to maintain control of any situation at this time. The seven rules set out in the book prepare mothers to take care of situations at different ages for different kids, using their own parenting style. They allow you to understand why your kids are doing what they do and allow you to plan ahead to find the best way to manage it when they do.