We’ve Got the Ghost Whisperer, Dog Whisperer, Cat Whisperer, Horse Whisperer, but have we thought about being the Mother of whisperers? I know this sounds funny but it’s the most basic life resources we all must strive to possess. And we think that as people, we understand how to do this?
The number ONE challenge that just about all of my clients have is to be able to communicate effectively. Whether it is with their loved ones, loved ones, colleagues, customers or subordinates, this is ONE BIG CHALLENGE.
Over the course of the last two to three weeks, it made me realise that most of the work I have been doing is really about teaching people how to communicate effectively. It’s not about talking well or having good diction. It’s all about communicating with each individual or group in such a way that they get what I am saying. At times, I am required to be tough/stern, others times I’m required to be soft and loving, and other times, it’s essential to be humorous. TIMING to do what and when is really the key.
Some of the key challenges that most people face include:
Communication with self? Is there effective self talk that one has clarity in the direction they are heading?
Communicating with others – Are your needs understood?
Is using voice better than signature? Or vice versa?
How to communicate effectively with a crowd so that you are rallying them towards something positive
does being a leader automatically make you an effective communicator? Or is it the other way around?
If our communication skills are effective, then we will surely have less of a challenge in our relationship with others. It’s a basic skill that we must have. However, it’s also among the hardest to learn, and a skillset that is challenging to impart.
To effectively learn this ability, attending a workshop for the masses on tactics, techniques etc isn’t sufficient. Simply because we are all different. An individual must learn how to adapt these skills to different life situations and with different people.
I have found that certain communication skills I’ve coached one customer on, will not work on another as effectively. As the facilitator, I am required to accommodate to each of the requirements of my clients. Now, remember that as a coach, it is crucial for me to have this skill set. But the fact is, everyone should have these skill sets too. We need one another, which goes without saying, so our need for one another requires us to convey. If this ability is missing, not only are our own needs not being met, you won’t have the ability to fulfill the needs of others as well, whether it’s in an intimate relationship, social connection or employment relationship.
And there are over 7 million results. This just goes to show that even the most basic human need isn’t being met. Couples are having real problems communicating their basic needs to their partners. If this is a challenge, what about other needs?